UNDERSTAND

Understand is about seeing clearly. Not judging. Not fixing. Just noticing.

Before I understood, I would sink without knowing why. I would feel heavy, stuck, worthless, feel like a failure.

Feelings are not facts. But they do change how I act.

First I had to see what was happening. Then I had to stop fighting it.

That is what understanding does for me now. It helps me notice the patterns – the thoughts – without letting them take over. Then I can work with them, not against them.

Your thoughts are not in control. They are powerful. Sometimes they can take control over you. 

When you understand that they are just your thoughts, you can take control.

When my mind says 'you failed,' I used to believe it. Now I pause. 

I ask myself: what would I say to a friend in this position?

I would not call them a failure. 

I would say: You showed up. You did something. Even if it was not what you planned, it was not nothing. You are not a failure.

Then I try to turn my thoughts around. I tell myself: I will take that as a win today.

Understanding gives me space. Space to see my thoughts for what they are. Not always the truth. Just thoughts. And thoughts can be changed.

Understand that small things add up. Then keep going forward.

— Justin Tee


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